If you want to attract women easily, you absolutely need to know about flirting and body language. The greatest importance in our communication is not in the words we say, but in the tone of our voice and especially in our body language. In a way, actions speak louder than words.
There are some aspects of body language that are really beyond our conscious control. Researchers have identified brief (less than a second) facial expressions that involuntarily reveal emotional responses such as surprise, anger, or disgust. As humans, we become very adept at reading facial expressions, even those brief glimpses at an early age.
While these expressions are Spotted Freiburg out of our control, there are many aspects of body language that we can use successfully in the dating world. Knowing these signals can give you a huge advantage when flirting.
You may already know that someone who crosses their arms indicates distrust or resistance. They build a wall in front of them with their arms.
Now it’s important to note that interpreting body language is not a precise science. That the same attitude doesn’t necessarily mean the same thing for everyone. In a way, we all have our unique body language, with enough similarities between us that we can draw broad conclusions. However, a single posture can mean something completely different to a person.
For example, someone may stand with their arms crossed not because they are disinterested, but because it is a habit, or because they find the posture comfortable when standing. You must interpret their level of interest by looking at their response as a whole.
Still, it’s good to be aware of some of the more important signals we send out with our bodies.
As a man, you want to exude an air of confidence and control. This means maintaining an upright posture with your chest out and your shoulders back. It doesn’t mean military rigidity or strutting like a peacock.
And while I just said that crossing your arms doesn’t necessarily mean disinterest, it’s not the most inviting posture. Avoid standing like this unless you want to block someone.
Something that people are less aware of is that crossed legs can have a similar effect as crossed arms. This is an area where there is a marked difference between men and women because women who wear skirts often sit cross-legged out of social convention and courtesy, not because they are disinterested.
However, a crossed-legged stance common in men is a body language flaw. Many men crossed their legs by bracing one ankle on the opposite knee. I know I do this a lot just as a good groin stretch. Don’t do it if you’re trying to hire a woman you’re sitting across from. This crossed leg creates a barrier, a virtual wall between you that will be difficult to cross with your conversation.
When you’re talking to a woman, pay attention to her head tilt. When she tilts her head to the side significantly, showing that she is very interested in you and what you are saying.
If she’s playing with her hair or throwing her head back, that’s an even better sign.
Ein weiterer Aspekt der Körpersprache, den Sie kontrollieren können, ist die Art und Weise, wie Sie Ihre Hände benutzen. Wenn Sie an den Unterschied zwischen einer geballten Faust und einer offenen Hand denken, die zum Händedruck ausgestreckt wird, wäre Ihnen klar, welche Körpersprache beim Flirten am besten geeignet ist.
Wenn Sie Ihre Hände verwenden, um einen Punkt zu betonen oder zu gestikulieren, halten Sie Ihre Hände offen und die Handflächen zeigen im Allgemeinen nach oben. Das vermittelt Offenheit und Vertrauenswürdigkeit.
Ein weiteres Signal, auf das Sie achten sollten, wenn Sie versuchen, eine Frau zu treffen, ist, wenn sie mit dem Kopf nickt, während sie spricht. Wenn sie den Kopf schüttelt und keine Geste macht, wenn sie ja sagt, meint sie nein. Wenn sie in einem „Ja“-Signal auf und ab nickt, ist das eine positive Antwort, unabhängig davon, was ihre Worte sagen.
Sobald Sie sich dieser Signale bewusst sind, ist es einfacher, sie zu erkennen, wenn Sie in sozialen Situationen unterwegs sind. Versuchen Sie nicht, sie alle auf einmal oder kontinuierlich selbst zu verwenden. Behalten Sie stattdessen eine selbstbewusste Haltung bei, nehmen Sie wahr, was um Sie herum vor sich geht, und versuchen Sie, die ausgesendeten nonverbalen Hinweise zu erkennen, und versuchen Sie nach und nach, körpersprachliche Signale in Ihre sozialen Interaktionen zu integrieren, insbesondere wenn Sie flirten.
Of course, there’s a lot more to flirting than just body language. A very important aspect of being successful with women is being considered an alpha male. I won’t go into the psychology of why this is true here, but it’s deeply embedded in our genetic history. Women are just as attracted to alpha males as men are to beautiful women. If you’re a man, you naturally want to be an alpha male.
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